Being nearly brand-spanking new in my transition, I feel a little odd adding my feelings about it since so many others have some useful information, but I guess it wouldn't be a crime to share my experience..
I could sit here and tell you what's typical of every transguy - I never really felt comfortable as a girl, as a child I would hang out with 'the guys', I've always dressed, acted, and felt masculine.. Then I grew up, and instead of society continuing to allow me to act like a boy, and shrug it off as me being a tomboy, it demanded change. I slipped (rather awkwardly, might I add), into the traditional gender roles, even though I tried to never keep a dress in my closet, and I've only had one real relationship with a guy that lasted about two-three months.. I even went to the prom in a dress. This isn't to say I wasn't completely and utterly miserable.. Because I was.
The transition started (or at least my awareness of ftm's) started about a couple of months ago when my girlfriend chatted with some transguys in a butch/femme chat room. There she got a glimpse into that universe, and heard about T and its effects, binding, packing, passing as a boy.. When she brought it to me, I was slightly guarded about the idea, since I hadn't seen any pictures of any ftm's, and it's slightly intimidating to have the answer to a lifetime of prayers set before you.
So, the issue kind of settled to the bottom of our lives for a while. Then, about a month ago, Jaime stumbled upon Sebastian James' website. Every night I'd come home from work, and find her on the computer perusing his site or a site from his various links. Eventually I sat down with her and looked it over. I was completely blown away and excited.. In the following weeks, I stayed up 'til early morning just reading through all the ftm info I could get my hands on, I even stumbled onto LiveJournal and began reading the daily lives/thoughts of transmen.
So right now I'm at the point where I've decided on a name, being Ethan Matthew, dressing like a boy, have the short hair, and am feeling everything out before I take the next step - seeking a therapist.
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